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16 Holy Matrimony

Holy Matrimony

Many times people ask themselves, what is the difference between Holy Matrimony and marriage?
As we will hear throughout the scripture readings during the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony God is always in control, in one, but not necessarily in the other.
Holy Matrimony confers on each couple a status like that of a “domestic church” built on a foundation of love over which the State has no authority beyond that of merely a registrar.
Concerning marriage we read the following in the march 1873 issue of the Atlantic;

Marriage, in its obvious import, is a civic tie, enforced by the magistrate in the interest of public order. I, for example, A B, am a married man, entitled therefore to certain civic rights, such as the right to found a family, or call my children my own; and exposed, on the other hand, to certain civic pains, in case of my conjugal unworthiness, such as the breaking up of my family, or the separation of my wife and children from my care and authority, followed by the alienation of a portion of my worldly goods to their exclusive benefit.

A legalistic contract and not a single thing more.
No such thing as establishment of morals and values.
The following text is an abstract from an external source;

Virgil Cooper's story reveals a lot of the legalistics of the marriage license.
While in a discussion with a county clerk it was stated that for instance in the state of Arizona.
The marriage licensing is pretty much the same in the other states -- but there are differences.
One significant difference he mentioned was that Arizona is one of eight western states that are Community Property states.
The other states are Common Law states, including Utah, with the exception of Lousiana which is a Napoleonic Code state.

He then explained some of the technicalities of the marriage license.
He said, first of all, the marriage license is Secular Contract between 3 parties: the State, the husband, and the wife.
The State is the principal party in that Secular Contract.
The husband and wife are secondary or inferior parties.
The Secular Contract is a three-way contract between the State, as Principal, and the husband and wife as the other two legs of the Contract.

The Clerk said, in the "traditional" sense a marriage is a covenant between the husband and wife and God.
But in the Secular Contract with the state, the reference to God is not officially considered included in the Secular Contract at all.
The Clerk said, if the husband and wife wish to include God as a party in their marriage, that is a "dotted line" the spouses will have to add in their own minds.
The state's marriage license is "strictly secular," the Clerk said.

The Clerk said further, that what he meant by the relationship to God being a "dotted line" meant that the State regards any mention of God as irrelevant, even meaningless.
In the clerk's description of the marriage license contract, he related one other "dotted line."

He said in the traditional religious context, marriage was a covenant between the husband and wife and God with husband and wife joined as One.
This is not the case in the secular realm of the state's marriage license contract.
The State is the Principal or dominant party.
The husband and wife are merely contractually "joined" as business partners, not in any religious union.
The spouses are, the Clerk said, connected to each other by another "dotted line."

The picture the Clerk was trying to paint was that of a triangle with the State at the top and a solid line extending from the apex, the State, down the left side to the husband, and a separate solid line extending down the right side to the wife.
The dotted line between the husband and wife merely showing that they consider themselves to have entered into a religious union of some sort that is irrelevant to the State.

The Clerk further mentioned that this religious overtone is recognized by the State by requiring that the marriage must be solemnized either by a state official or by a minister of religion who has been deputized by the State to perform the marriage ceremony and make a return of the signed and executed marriage license to the State.
The clerk emphasized that this contractual consideration by the bride and groom places them in a definite and defined-by-law position inferior and subject to the State.
The Clerk commented that very few people realize this.

The clerk also said that it is very important to understand that children born to the marriage are considered by law as "the contract bearing fruit" -- meaning the children primarily belong to the State, even though the law never comes out and says so in so many words, the judges and social workers act on the assumption that the state controls the children.

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As Christians we do realize that God has created man and woman, God has given us guidelines to live by (the 10 commandments), but above all, God has given us the ultimate example concerning love.
This in His Son, Jesus Christ.
With God's commandments we know that when we consume each-others love, we are in His eyes married. We have created in this consummation a contract between partners.
As a man shall leave his parents and cleave to his wife.
Genesis 2:22-25 (ESV) “And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. 23 Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. 25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.”

God has taken and God has given, when a man and a woman have sex they are consummating/sealing the contract of Holy Matrimony.
Adam and Eve did not have any church, state, country, or federal law to adhere to which means they indeed where married without a marriage license.
The idea that a man and a woman can just be living together, sharing the same bed and not being married is with this not from God but from the world or with that from the devil himself.
In our current day with all its written rules and regulations we are beyond the situation of Adam and Eve, but not beyond the principle created by God. Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

Within a marriage people get into a contract between husband, wife, and the state. Indeed the state, a marriage license is a contract with the state, thus a wedding in this case would be a contract between three partners, husband, wife and the state.

Within the Holy Matrimony, we are indeed getting married, but we do this between two individuals, AND God.
Where we dedicate our lives to each-other, but even more our lives, as ONE, to Him.
This is why people still go to the church to get sealed in the contract of Holy Matrimony. This however can be done without the states involvement.
Holy matrimony really already has said it all, it is a Holy, sanctified, set aside ceremony. An invitation for God to be the first partner in our relationship.
The Pastor performs the rite of Holy Matrimony declaring the relationship created to be of God, husband and wife. In this declaring the importance of the three string chord with Christ being the center of the marriage relationship.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (CEB) “Two are better than one because they have a good return for their hard work. 10 If either should fall, one can pick up the other. But how miserable are those who fall and don’t have a companion to help them up! 11 Also, if two lie down together, they can stay warm. But how can anyone stay warm alone? 12 Also, one can be overpowered, but two together can put up resistance. A three-ply cord doesn’t easily snap.”

It is very important to note that this is not a relationship that can be entered if not both husband and wife are confessing to be Christians because 2 Corinthians 6:14 says that believers should notmarry unbelievers: "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?"
Likewise, unless at least one of the parties are Christians, the marriage is according to the Psalms doomed to failure: Psalm 127:1, (NKJV) "Unless the Lord builds the house [or the family], they labor in vain who build it [with the state or a marriage license]."
A Christ based Holy Matrimony has always been a joyous occasion. In Cana of Galilee it was gladdened by the presence and blessing of the Lord Jesus Christ Himself.
Because God intended marriage to bring joy and blessings to your lives. Ephesians 5:21-28 (KJV) “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.
28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.”

Holy Matrimony is;

Where we love, as Christ loves the Church.
Where we protect, as Christ protects His Church.
Where we care, as Christ cares for His Church.
Where we serve, as Christ has served for His Church.
Where we obey, because we know that Christ loves His bride.
Where we individually might be weak, but through Christ we can do All Things.

As the Church is the Bride.
And the bride loves Christ, for Christ loves the church so much that He layed down His live for her.
The promises to be made are also a reflection of this love and not in the least the mutual respect for each-other.
The Groom is asked to love and comfort his bride, to honor and keep her, AND in joy and sorrow, preserve with her this bond, HOLY and unbroken, until the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.
And the Bride is asked to love and comfort her groom, to honor and keep him, in joy and sorrow, to preserve with him this Holy and unbroken bond until the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.

In which a Christian groom is able to his bride to love her with all his heart's affection and to endow her with all his earthly possessions, giving her all the honor of his name and to share with her the grace of the Lord God Almighty upon his life.
The bride would be able to make this wonderful promise from the book of Ruth 1:16b (CEB)“Wherever you go, I will go; and wherever you stay, I will stay. Your people will be my people, and your God will be my God.”

Total dedication to the contract, the covenant of Holy Matrimony, with God as the spindle around which all turns. In this kind of relationship a godly man can grow and a proverbs 31 woman can bloom and prosper. Blessings from the Lord WILL rain down on this.

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